Well, hello there.
Guess that you are wondering who I am? I’m Nathalie and I am most happy when I am traveling, eating, drinking wine, at the beach, and snuggling with my delicious baby girl. Sometimes I get lucky and all of my favorite things happen at once and it is bliss! I am a recovering workaholic, a multi-talker, connector, and type A down to the blood type. (I mean, does anyone ever fully recover from being a workaholic?) I am married to an amazing man who keeps me sane and reminds me that life is pretty grand. We live in New York City, the city that never sleeps and also the city of dreams. An oxymoron, yet totally spot on.
I stumbled upon this quest for fertility advocacy in 2016 personally, when it hit me hard that my desired next chapter of starting a family wasn’t happening, was harder than I imagined it would be to achieve, and that it was all beyond my control. Not easy for a type A like me. The realization that there was no amount of hope and planning that could actually create my desired outcome was mind-blowing. I learned that although I couldn’t (and still) can't control the future, I could do my part to optimize a successful outcome AND most importantly, could find happiness and peace in myself. As I look back, I get goose bumps thinking about how my journey has evolved into a larger cause and platform for (in)fertility awareness. I am so grateful for every single minute of (pain, happiness and insert just about emotion here) that I went through to get to where I am. I don't regret any of it; the highs, the lows, and the moments in between. Without those moments, I know that I would be less equipped to give selflessly and fully to a tiny human or quite frankly to anyone else. My game-changing moment was when I became a participant rather than a spectator.
Everyone has a different (in)fertility story and path; mine was one of wellness, nutrition and surrounding myself with incredible people who inspire positive change. I learned that we rise by lifting others up and that I needed to start by filling my own cup first rather than trying to bleed from a stone and completely exhausting myself in the process.
I was so taken by the power that health and wellness could possibly play, that I received my certification as a holistic health coach from the Nutrition School to learn about nutrition. I did this during an IVF break and prior to my third cycle. It was incredibly gratified to control one part of the process by what I put into my body during my journey. I now have my certification from the American Association of Drugless Practitioners, as well as a Plant Based Nutrition certification from Cornell.
I found that this crazy fertility process produced a silver lining of sorts for me through an acute awareness of balance and true prioritization, qualities that I had previously regarded as mythical unicorns. The experience also inducted me into a community of strong women and men who advocate and have made it their mission to create awareness around (in)fertility.
This blog is my wonderful excuse to focus more time on the things that I am passionate about; supporting the discussion about (in)fertility, IVF, and the journey.
prog·ress \ prä-grəs (n): a forward or onward movement (as to an objective or to a goal)
But what if progress can’t be easily achieved linearly and by checking boxes? Is it worth rethinking the process and expectations? I certainly think so.
Progress Redefined: Rewiring expectations to achieve fulfillment and worth along the journey with the awareness that that the outcome is never promised.
So get in the game. Be a player not a spectator. It’s amazing where the path can lead when our eyes are open and we are awake to the possibilities.