Things don't happen TO you, they happen FOR you. -Claudia Chan
That statement was my AHA moment and has become my personal mantra. Here were my stats as of February 2017 as a woman diagnosed with unexplained infertility:
3 years of trying to conceive
2 unsuccessful IUIs
2 unsuccessful IVFs
2 major pity party episodes
5 reproductive endocrinologists
A third and successful IVF!
I took a leap of faith and started this blog before I got pregnant because I was bothered that very few people talk about (in)fertility. I get it, “infertility” is not a pretty word and the meaning is marred with so many emotions like shame, guilt, anger, frustration, and, and, and... It dawned on me that the stats and negative pregnancy tests didn’t define me. More so, I was exhausted about trying to play it cool when it wasn’t, talking about (in)fertility and IVF in hushed tones, hiding my emotions and the topic because I didn’t want to be viewed as an alien in the largely male dominated industry that I worked in.
According to the CDC, about 6% of married women aged 15 to 44 years in the United States are unable to get pregnant after one year of trying and are branded with (in)fertility. Roughly 12% of women aged 15 to 44 years in the United States have difficulty getting pregnant or carrying a pregnancy to term, regardless of marital status.
Resolve.org recently brought to light that 1 in 8 couples (or 12% of married women) have trouble getting pregnant or sustaining a pregnancy. 7.4 million women, or 11.9% of women, have received infertility services in their lifetime. (2006-2010 National Survey of Family Growth, CDC).
Discovering that I was just one of 7.4 million women who sought fertility services justified that I was not alone. I wondered where these women were hiding. I know that I wasn’t excited to shout from the rooftops that I had (in)fertility issues. Although there are now a few fertility trailblazers out there, and in a space that is growing and changing so dynamically from a medical perspective, we haven’t even hit the tip of the iceberg on the topic. My view is that (in)fertility will become an increasingly important topic not just for families, communities, but for the global and economic success of countries.
This is why I created Fertilust as a safe place where people can find a sense of community and find legitimate resources in support of their unique journey. My hope is that having these discussions will assist in the normalization of the (in)fertility topic both personally and professionally.
You can expect stories of strength along with words of wisdom from fertility warriors, as well as ideas from experts in fertility, nutrition, and wellness. For good measure, you can also count on some great recipes and product reviews along the way.